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Moms Without A Mom | Dr Melissa Reilly Psy.D.

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This is Dr Melissa Reilly's story...   Dr. Melissa Reilly has experienced grief in many forms throughout her life. As a child, she lost her older sister to leukemia. Never talking about this led to an intense fear of grief. Then as a young adult, both her mother and younger sister died. Several years later she experienced the slow death of my best friend and life partner. When she finally had a child of her own, she experienced postpartum depression, which she realized was connected to her unresolved grief. No longer afraid of death she feels empowered to walk with others in their grief in ways most are not able to. Her experience of being a mom without a mom has fueled her passion to support other moms experiencing a similar situation.   In this episode, you will learn the following: Dr. Melissa Reilly's experience of grief in many different forms, and how that has helped her understand and connect with others who are grieving. The impact of suppressing grief, and how it can manifest physically. Dr. Reilly's experience of postpartum depression, and how it was connected to her unresolved grief. How you can take care of yourself while caring for your child if you don't have the opportunity for alone time.   Quote: "I am so thankful that I had that discovery that that was my experience of death before the other deaths occurred in my life, so that I could start kind of learning that death wasn't something that would destroy me before I had the next set of deaths." ~ Dr Melissa Reilly     Resources: Enjoy Being a Mom Again Quick Guide: Care For Yourself While You Care For Your Baby Guide:   Website: Facebook: IG:     Chapter Summaries:   1) This week's guest is Dr. Melissa Riley, a clinical psychologist and parent coach. Dr. Riley has suffered a lot of grief in her life. From the age of four onwards, she lost her older sibling, her mother and her sister, her life partner and three miscarriages. She also suffered postpartum depression after giving birth to her son. She will talk about the role of resiliency and grief on this week's show.   2) Grief is something we experience throughout life, and it can be experienced in many different forms. Many people are not comfortable with grief, and sometimes people will shy away from talking about it, which can lead others to feel isolated. Grief is still not spoken about.   3) Melissa's older sister, Kim, died of leukemia. Melissa and her younger sister were left in the care of others while their parents were in New York for Kim's treatment. Melissa didn't go to Kim's funeral. Melissa's parents didn't talk about it because it was too painful for them. Melissa's grandfather died of a heart attack. Melissa and her sister didn't know how they would cope with it. Helen's friend had a similar experience, where he lost his brother and his family didn't discuss it. After Helen's daughter died, her friend started talking about his brother dying and how that impacted him.   4) As a child she was always having some kind of pain or ache or problem. She was on angina medicine for chronic headaches at the age of 13. Her sister was teased for being a hypochondriac because something always hurt. She experienced grief through physical symptoms.   5) As a new mother, she experienced postpartum depression and felt alone and isolated. She tried to compensate for that by taking care of other people.   6) According to the research, 12% of mothers experience postpartum or postnatal depression. When she had her son, she found ways to care for herself while having him with her. She used the Moby wrap and listened to audiobooks to soothe him. I never asked for

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